Ryron Gracie speaks about the importance of winning.
"...when you're a child, and you have your parents pat you on the back...telling all their friends how you won. ...you spend the whole day having your mom and dad telling everybody how good of an athlete you are at whatever sport you play when you're seven years old. ...as you get older it continues...you only get praise for when you do good at something. You start to build your identity around those praises. Now you seventeen...thirty-five years old, and you win a tournament, everybody congratulated you. ...you just want to feel that...you want to be told once again how special and how good you are. You only feel special and good when you perform. People aren't being patted on the back and being told 'good job' when they're getting beat."
"...you always have to see and reward the person for what they did that was good. And there's always something. Even if you lose in four seconds, it doesn't matter. You stepped on mat, and by stepping on the mat you did want ninety-nine percent of the world would not do. ...There is always something good and positive to find in the experience."
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Ryron Gracie
Inside BJJ
I need to remember this!
ReplyDeleteI think we'd all be better off if we did.
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